Don’t Be an Idiot, Woman. Study Before You Vote!

I have come to belief that inside every woman, there lays a feminist and her feminists tendencies are expressed in degrees depending on the individual. From demands for equal work for equal pay to the utter shunning of male company and indulgence exclusive lesbian relationships, there are certain things that women will not tolerate from men or male driven institutions.

I myself am an ‘infant’ feminist. I live in a bubble and am fortunate that I have not had any of my rights or personal trampled on within that bubble. I know that other hard core feminists/womanists look at me (and women like me) with scorn because I am pro-life and have chosen to stay at home and raise my kids instead of using my degree in fast tracking my career in the arena of government or banking or wherever else these women think my life should lead. They think I have no backbone and that I represent a threat to full female equality. And to some degree I don’t blame them. As reprehensible as my lifestyle is to them – as an individual who has chosen the ‘traditional’ role of the woman – there is a woman far more dangerous than I or my ilk will ever be. And that woman, by sheer power of her utter stupidity and indolence, nearly aborted the infant feminist within me.

Let’s just call her “Becky”, since I’ve long forgotten her name.

I was driving to clean a house one Friday morning when I tuned in to a local radio station. The segment was called “Relationship Rehab” and Becky had phoned in to discuss the voting habits in her home. She said, and I am NOT kidding, that she votes however her husband tells her to vote.

“There are never any arguments in my house around politics,” she said.

Well, I guess not Einstein. What good would it do your husband to argue with his lapdog?

The female presenters on the show were incredulous, as was I.

“What do you mean you vote the way your husband tells you to?” screeched one DJ. “Does he MAKE you vote his way?”

“No, not at all,” said Becky in a Southern drawl. “He just researches the candidates and their ideas and decides who would be the best pick for our family.”

“What?!” the DJ howled.

“What?!?” I echoed in my car.

“So you mean you don’t look at the candidates for yourself? You just trust your husband to make a choice that affects you so personally?”

“Yeah,” said Becky defensively. “I trust my husband completely! I just think he does a better job at looking at the facts.”

The two women at the radio gasped in disbelief. I myself thought I was going to wreck my car. Seizing the opportunity to explain herself further, Becky continued in hopes of strengthening her argument. She succeeded only in making matters worse.

“He’s very detailed,” she explained. “I mean, he goes over everything page by page.”

“So you don’t look at any of the guys who are running for yourself,” repeated the other DJ. “You just vote the way he tells you to?”

“Does he MAKE you do this?” asked the other again.

“No. He doesn’t,” Becky reminded them. “I was just raised to believe that the man chooses who his home supports and votes for.”

“OHHHHHH!!!!”, we all chorused.

Somewhere, the women of the suffragette movement were stabbing themselves with their freshly cast off needle work and Harriet Tubman was spinning in her grave. I think an angel died at the feet of Jesus that morning as well.

“I just don’t trust myself to make the right choice,” Becky eventually admitted. “And I don’t know why you guys are so upset. My parents have never voted ever at all anyways!”

OOOOHHHHHHH!!!”, we hollered again.

The phones lit up. All around the city, there were women calling in – to come to Becky’s defense. They, like her, voted precisely the way their husbands persuaded (or instructed) them to.  At that moment, somewhere in Zimbabwe, Lucifer was in the middle of encouraging Mugabe to tear down more homes of his impoverished citizens, but he stopped.

“I’ll be back, Bobby,” he said to Mugabe. “I have to run over to Atlanta to check this Becky thing out. I outdid myself this time!”

When they finally found someone to counter Becky’s stance, she ended her tirade in a huff, asserting that the great thing about America is that everyone has the freedom to do what they want to do!

O_o.

But you’re destroying heaven with your lunacy, Becky! That’s un-American at its core!

Here’s my take: as a Black woman, I could never imagine having anyone tell me how to vote. Blacks were excluded from voting because we weren’t even considered whole human beings for centuries; and women were prohibited from voting because we were believed to be too emotional. We couldn’t be trusted to look at the facts presented to us and make a logical choice in a candidate because that’s what men ascribed to us. Becky, quite literally, set women back to the 18th century with her admission.

I mentioned Harriett Tubman earlier, because apart from fighting for an end to slavery, she also fought hard for women’s rights and was a key player in the suffragette movement. Many women in elite society had never done anything outside of their homes, and in Harriet they found a strong, brave and daring model of womanhood.  She was often called on to speak at rallies. Though illiterate, she was cunning and unafraid. And she was Black. She defied everything that the White male establishment said about race and gender. How could I then allow myself to be led to vote in a way that was against my conscience – or fail to engage my conscience in my vote at all!

Look ladies: we live in the age of high speed internet and a 24 hour news cycle. There are countless political publications – all for free – at your local library. There are radio stations specifically dedicated to politics. C-SPAN (you know that channel you gloss over on your way to E! ?) is always available. You can watch how your senators and congressmen vote on issues that matter to you live. There is no excuse for political ignorance. Not in America. If you don’t know what the candidates stand for and who you should vote for, it’s because you’re LAZY, pure and simple.

If you’re not going to make an informed, intelligent vote, please stay your behind at home on election day. I know why the country is in such ruin now. The inmates have taken over the asylum!

MOM Squad: What do you think? Is it okay for women to vote the way their husbands/boyfriends tell them to, just for the sake of harmony in the home? Do you vote the way your friends do? Have you ever been pressured into voting one way or another just so you would be in compliance with your peers?

This thing is deep. Deeper than I thought!

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10 thoughts on “Don’t Be an Idiot, Woman. Study Before You Vote!

  1. Nana Ama

    Whaaat!!!

    I thought such women were extinct! People like her bolster the arguments for Eugenics!

    On the other side of the coin: Over 100 Nigerian women who went on a recent pilgrimage to Mecca have been repatriated by Saudi Authorities because they were unchaperoned by a man!

    Plus ca change…

    1. Malaka Post author

      What lunacy! I think they were just looking for a reason to deport them. I guess it’s lucky they didn’t kidnap my poor sisters and force them into household slavery like the Saudis do to the Indonesian women. Hmmm

  2. Rasheeda

    Say what?! This is just plain ridiculous. My mind just can’t fathom this world where she lives and thinks (or rather fails to think anything at all, lest her husband put the thought there) this is acceptable for a grown human being. I love a political discourse, it’s been the very thing that gets me excited when I talk to my husband, I love it when he picks the opposition just so we can debate. But I get I’m a bit perverse in that way.
    Becky has the wrong idea of America, but lets be honest her husband probably told her what America was anyways. We are a country forged out of an differing opinion and we fought to free ourselves. Becky has no concept of freedom. She has built her own prison and happily given herself a life sentence in it. She doesn’t even posses the freedom to think a different thought than her husband…oh the misery she is in for. A human must at least have their own thoughts, poor Becky I pray she never have to find out the truths of life the hard way. But as my momma said, you will pay for your ignorance, everyone does.

  3. Jenn

    My southern grandma was a Democrat. My grandpa was a Republican. They each voted for their parties’ respective candidate. She laughed when she told me that she voted just to cancel his vote out, and yes, it caused a ruckus. She said it was worth it. =) It wasn’t JUST to spite him. She hated Republicans. I try not to get involved with hate, although I think I should get more involved in politics. In thinking of judge not, “Becky” may be ignorant, but perhaps she has a bliss with her man in that kind of blind trust that we “more logical” ladies cannot even fathom. I loved the history lesson wrapped into this article, too. You’ve given me lots to think about. This is another one so good I’ll HAVE to share it with my little girl as part of her education for this wild world. Good post!

    1. Malaka Post author

      Glad I could add to the collection of tales for your daughter’s education. 😉

      How on earth did your grandmother manage to change his vote? That’s crafty right there.

      It’s unfortunate that the state of our politics is so divisive that you can come to hate a group of people based on their approach to solutions. I think in the end Democrats and republicans want the same things; they just can’t agree on how to achieve them. Why all the need for hate?

  4. TD

    Not ok….. but after meeting a lot of older women that were raised to be wives, I can understand, but not agree with Becky’s viewpoint. Its an entirely different mind set; the kind that makes you stay even when you know your husband has another family across the street. We can do a lot of pontificating about her choices as a women or a wife, but in the end, it works for her and her family :).

  5. Joy Mdivo (@Joymdivo)

    Ladies, ladies, Give Becky a break! This is the sort of thing that hardens our arteries. One thing I have learned in life, there are no right answers and no wrong answers. There is only stuff that works and stuff that doesn’t. Becky is perfectly happy not to bother her perfectly coiffed head with the details of who to vote for or not. Her husband, who is clearly besotted with his wife and is in-charge of all that concerns her guides her accordingly. I am sure her man also does not bother finding out where in their southern mansion the kitchen is. Becky sorts him out adequately. Different strokes for different folks. This keeps her world rocking and so she is perfectly happy.

    Today, we have enough issues to polarise us and divide us. I say, Yay Becky! I would not give my decisions over to my husband as wholeheartedly, but I do understand how I would choose a harmonious home over Barack Obama, besides, he already belongs to Michelle and will not ring my bell or scratch my itch. My two cents, now let me run and take cover coz I can already hear the missiles coming!!!

  6. Angela Watson

    Perhaps she is not interested in politics, which is unfortunate since politics is definitely interested in her!

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