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I Have a Gray Hair on My Vagina

Yes, yes. I know. “TMI”. Get over it. I’m having a crisis! Let’s deal with this.

When you’re a kid, there are certain things in the human development cycle that your parents have the foresight to prepare you for (if they are good parents). They warn you about the evils of wet dreams that may result in nocturnal emissions. Your dad may have beamed with pride when you began to point out the fledgling follicles that adorned your face like pepper flakes on a scrambled eggs. Perhaps your mother ran out to the store to purchase a bucket of Noxema to stave off the inevitable onslaught of teenage acne. And ff course, every girl remembers that terrible moment her underwear was unexpectedly stained red with Nature’s version of pungent tomato sauce in the middle of gym. Through it all, there was a book, a pamphlet, a prepared and well-rehearsed speech that either your parents or some beloved guardian delivered to you. It was scary, but you were ready and armed with knowledge.

So why didn’t these people prepare us for gray pubic hairs??? Why was there no pamphlet or pep talk to prepare me for this moment? The ancestors have failed me! I feel…I feel power draining from me…

I discovered the little gray hair quite by mistake. I have no idea how long it had been hiding between my legs, like a sneaky bandit, waiting to shock me with its presence. I was standing with my leg over the toilet shaving my lady bits with hubby’s clippers. He has three sets: one for his face; one to barber his hair; and one he has had to designate for lady bit trimming ever since the day I used his face clippers for what I just told you I was using them for.

Anytime you have a sharp, high voltage device near your delicate labia, it behooves you to take the utmost care when the situation necessitates that meeting. So there I was, bent over the opening of the toilet, fascinated by the sight of my coarse and curlies descending into the porcelain bowl, when I saw it. There were many things falling into the toilet from betwixt my legs, and “it” was not like any of the others.

Oh God. A gray hair!

I was horrified.

Marshall of course thinks it’s no big deal. He thinks it’s “cute”. Of course he would. He thinks the permanent keloid underneath my kangaroo belly – courtesy of four C-sections – is “cute”. I could have cut him when he offered his “support” with those words. One gray hair means that there are more to come. Like a scout ant in the sugar dish, it is never alone.

bride-of-frankesteinI have always wanted gray hair. When I was younger I thought it was distinguished and looked forward to turning 50. At 15 I imagined my future self. I’d have a slamming hot boy, a shock of gray hair on my right temple. Instead, I am approaching 37 eighty pounds overweight with one gray pubic hair on my vagina. What is this?!?

I have no other words. No analysis. No epiphanies to share with you. I believe this is a cruel joke that my parents, aunties and uncles have played on me. Everyone freely spoke about the pain of childbirth, the difficulty of keeping one’s marriage together and how hard they had to work to keep the lights on in your house. NO ONE has ever talked about the horror of discovering that your poontang is aging. It ain’t right. Some of you are dealing with this right now. You feel my pain. And for those of you who aren’t, laugh! Go ahead and laugh! When a gray pube sneaks up your butt, you’ll remember this post.

Discuss? ↓



This article has 16 comments

  1. LaKeisha

    I can’t take it, I am not ready!!

  2. nina

    Love this post! sorry for your lady parts. I found one two years ago at the age of 34, plucked it, told a couple girlfriends and kept on going. I don’t have a single gray hair on my head but find it distinguished as well. I’ll let you know when I find the next one. In the meantime, maybe Marshall could “help” 😉 confirm there are no more.

  3. AM

    You are indeed a mad woman!!!

  4. ewurabasempe

    Lol Malaka! Found mine over Thanksgiving. The ones on the head have been hidden pretty well with all the dyeing of my locs. But when a few stared back at me from down there, I freaked. My partner said it was cute too and she couldn’t wait to get hers. I reached for scissors when she stopped cooing and turned away. I am paranoid now. I hear when you yank them out, they grow back in more places. :/ Thanks for voicing what we are experiencing.

  5. lajodi

    Malaka! Okay, I have now resolved that I won’t be shocked or surprised by any of your posts any longer. That said, I totally dig this post and the franknesss and human-ness of the blog entry.

    True, peops never get properly prepared for this GREY’s ANATOMY especially in those regions. It seems Females have a greater tendency to sprout these as three of my ex-girlfriends (all under-40) have reported such sightings, yet I (39) don’t have one single, solitary strand of that hue. My greys are even more surreptitiously situated in my NOSTRILS.

    To answer your previous question Mally Kay, It IS conceivable that if a woman lives long enough the pubes could get totally grey. (y)

  6. guestar

    Girrrll, at least you got yours at 37! I got my ‘notice’ about a year ago at 33 and I was like damn- aint never been in love, aint never really made love and its already letting me know its starting to shut down?! WTF! The greys on my head are creeping in through my locs too. This irks me since both my parents didn’t start getting random strands of grey till they were hitting 60! I’ve convinced myself its because i’m in a very high stress career (surgeon). For a little while I tried not to take it out on the gods (like, I dedicate my life to helping your brethren and THIS is how you wanna play me?!!) I’m kinda over it now, but still….eish!

    • Malaka

      Yeah…the Fates were unfair to you. Look at all you’ve done for humanity, and they repay you with grizzly vijayjay? Where is the justice!

  7. Naan

    Hi, i’m Naan and i saw my greys at age 22. 24 now. *drops mic*
    PS: greys, not grey

  8. Thefashionbar

    Loved your post. I think, I am the one who has gray hair in both sides (Head and pubic area). When I see gray hair in my p.. area, I immediately plucked, it really hurts at the time of plucking, but I’m Ok with it 🙂

  9. marla

    Saw mine at age 30, I plucked it and it came back by the dozens.

  10. Nikki Braxton

    Just turn 33 yesterday found two grey hairs on my fatcat but don’t have none on my head thank God.

  11. Honest River P

    M 25 n just saw a gray hair on my pubic part I don’t want to pluck it out🤷‍♂️. Tho it’s scaring me like gray hair at my age 😞😞

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