Motherhood Archives - Mind of Malaka

“New African Mum” Parenting is Taking Your Daughters to a Burlesque Show

Posted on July 29, 2022
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Aya, my sweet and surly second born, turned 16 this month. It's difficult to believe considering that I just enrolled her in pre-school a few days ago. Nevertheless that's what the calendar says: My baby is officially in the first phases of young adulthood. Her…

A Father’s Day Lament: When You Need Protection from Your “Protector”

Posted on June 22, 2022
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A man places his phone on selfie mode and begins to record. The lens is angled from the floor up, so that we are able to see his feet advancing towards a child cowering in the corner. Both come into view. The man is hunched…

My Tween Son Doesn’t Like to Bathe, So I Used the Seuss Method to Explain the Importance of Personal Hygiene

Posted on March 15, 2022
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My Boy turns 13 this Spring and just as he did during the toddler phase, he is hitting every single benchmark and milestone by the book. He's moody, ill-tempered, keeps a filthy bedroom and only takes instructions from his father. I have been content to…

The “Mommy Wars” Have Made it to Africa, and They Are Uglier Than Ever

Posted on March 8, 2022
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They say fashion and trends recycle themselves every 20 years, so I suppose it should come as no surprise that the Mommy Wars - a dark and desolate time during the early days of social media - have reared its ugly head. In the early…

Aboriginal Australians Send Their Pre-Teen Boys On a ‘Walkabout’. I Wish I Could Send My Son On One Too.

Posted on December 20, 2021
by Malaka
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The rules of Thunderdome are easy: Two men enter, one man leaves. This is what it's felt like living with my son for the past 18 months - like I'm locked in a cage fight with an adversary bent on bending me to his will…

Are We Being Fair To Our Boys?

Posted on December 2, 2021
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This morning I got a call from my son's homeroom teacher. She told me she had a bit of bad news to share. My thoughts immediately went to the worst possible scenario. Was my son dead??? And how did it happen?!? Why else would she…

Conversations With My Kids: Fear

Posted on October 22, 2021
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It hits me, on occasion. What, you ask? That I am nearing the end of my motherhood journey... Or at least in the conventional understanding and/or definition of the term. Who is a mother? What does she do? She's someone: Who wipes your noseWho cooks/provides…

I Asked My Daughter If There Was Anything I Had Done As a Parent To Cause Her to Resent Me. Her Response Confounded Me.

Posted on October 8, 2021
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I have a friend named D*. She is a soulmate and a light in my life; and if our friendship could be described as a masala, she brings the sweetness while I contribute the spice. My life is far more interesting with her in it,…

Lead By Example: Practical Tips For Parents

Posted on September 22, 2021
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Guest post written by Elena Stewart Most parents want the absolute best for their children. You want your children to live a vibrant childhood, and when you imagine your kids growing up, you probably like to think of them achieving their goals and living happy,…

Disappearance and Displacement: What I Learned When I Went Back to Davistown

Posted on August 24, 2021
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Displacement With a week left before I had to fly back to South Africa, I decided that another trip to Davistown, KY would be in order. When would I have this opportunity again? God and the ancestors had extended what was supposed to be a…

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