Motherhood Archives - Page 4 of 25

The Mercy of Teachers Who Embrace Failure

Posted on March 28, 2018
by Malaka
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I often talk about the teachers who shaped both the writer and woman I am today. Not infrequently, I mention one teacher’s name with more regularity than any other. (Go to Door Number 5 to receive your prize if you smiled wryly and said, “Mr.…

Why Are Some Women Choosing Childbirth Over Marriage?

Posted on March 22, 2018
by Malaka
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“There is no man more single than a married man in Joburg.” Joy FM host Naa Ashorkor Mensa-Doku wanted to know why modern women are choosing to have children outside of the confines of traditional marriage and there was no shortage of men waiting…

I Like to Imagine My Children’s Faces When They Discover All Their Teeth

Posted on March 14, 2018
by Malaka
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My two oldest children are 13 and 11 years old, which means that they are just about done losing teeth. This is a good thing, because there are few things creepier than tiptoeing into a pre-teens room in the dead of night, swathed only in…

The Key To Great Parenting Is Simple. Have Some Sympathy.

Posted on March 8, 2018
by Malaka
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Sympathy noun Understanding between people; common feeling It doesn’t matter if your child is a few days old or well into their fifties; a parent is most likely to assess an unfamiliar scenario with one uppermost question: “Am I responding to this situation the right…

There is a Long History of the ‘Nakia Ideology’. I Have Come So That We Might Honor It.

Posted on February 23, 2018
by Malaka
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It’s another thought piece centering on Black Panther, y’all! Just ride with me for a sec. I think it will be worth your while. Since the release of Black Panther last week, there have been many conversations (and on certain Sci-Fi fan pages, outright…

There Is Dignity In All Work

Posted on January 22, 2018
by Malaka
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“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say,…

10 Great Gifts For Tween Boys

Posted on December 23, 2017
by Malaka
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Is your little man tired of receiving khakis, hoodies and socks for Christmas? Has exhaustion from exerting yourself all year depleted your creative capacity? Do you want him - like his father- to just be grateful for the gift of refined cotton?? If the title…

For My Kids: Develop Your Own Safe Space By Interrogating the Truth

Posted on December 10, 2017
by Malaka
with 4 Comments

‘Bullying’ isn’t just a 21st century buzzword that is strewn about like bunting at a state fair – it’s a real social scourge that affects millions of children worldwide, every day. Bullying has measurable and serious consequences, including diminished self-esteem, depression and suicide. It’s not…

I’m Terrified That My Daughters Will Identify With a Hashtag like #MeToo One Day

Posted on October 24, 2017
by Malaka
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I’ve been sitting on this post for a week or better. The subject matter is one that people like myself – empaths – would much rather leave to our darkest imaginations than speak about, the risk being that the undesired event may come to pass.…

What Playing Monopoly With My Children Taught Me About My Own Mother

Posted on May 3, 2017
by Malaka
with 2 Comments

In late January we moved the TV from the game room upstairs to the bottom floor in order to accommodate guests who would be occupying the suite where we once gathered as a family. When I say “we”, I really mean “they”: my children. The…