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Let’s Face It: Most Pastors Aren’t Equipped to Deal with ‘Sexual Immorality’

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Some people are so heavenly minded that they are no earthly good, and that includes quite a number of men who stand behind their Plexiglas or stained oak pulpits Sunday after Sunday. To say that they are “heavenly minded” is even being generous, in my books. These men are usually “budget minded”, conjuring up sermons […]

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What Do You Mean You’ve Never Heard of ‘Sex Shoes’?

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I stared at the bride-to-be in complete astonishment. I repeated the question once more. “Ah. What do you mean you’ve never heard of ‘sex shoes’?” “Miss Malaka…I don’t know what that is!” she half wailed. She looked at her maid of honor for support. The young woman shook her head to indicate that she was […]

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Is Marriage The Silver Bullet to Ending Poverty?

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There has been an interesting discussion brewing in social media about the benefits of marriage as they relate to “ending poverty”. It’s no mistake that this discussion is taking place now. We’re in an election year and politicians are pandering to their respective bases. Everyone, Democrat or Republican, wants to be seen as serious on […]

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The Charmed Life of the Female Bowerbird

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Men. They are SO convinced that they are at the apex of the animal kingdom; that by virtue of the fact that they are men, they are inherently superior to all other life on earth. When a man encounters an animal that runs faster, swims quicker or is more ferocious in the face of conflict, […]

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Could You Marry a Man who Has Had HUNDREDS of Sexual Partners?

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Whew! MOM Squad. This is the question that has been burning on my mind all weekend. I must unburden myself. In the process, I’m going to do my best not to disclose anything that might give this couple away in case they are watching this space, but let’s get into it! I got a call […]

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Black Men Want to Be Treated Like Pets

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A more fair title would have been ‘SOME Black Men Want to be Treated Like Pets’, but the little quantifier – some – wouldn’t’ve made you click as quickly on this link as you did, would it? Welcome to my little web. Muahahahahaaaa….!!!! I shan’t keep you long at all. This is a hard core, […]

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It Took a Man To Help Me Understand Why Oprah Never Married

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Condi Rice is back in the news. It appears she has been tapped to join a 12-18 person selection committee for the BCS. Pat Dye, 70-something year old former Auburn University coach, couldn’t be more explicit his displeasure. Of Ms. Rice’s experience he says “All she knows about football is what somebody told her. Or […]

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You’re Never Just Marrying a ‘Person’.

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I used to be really naïve about love and relationships. Now that I’m firmly in my 30’s, I find myself in that space between naivety and cynicism where matters of the heart are concerned; and I’m fervently trying to becoming a full-blown pessimist. As you well know by now, I share my affections with several […]

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The World Natural Hair Show: 2013

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*Sigh!!!* I should have taken more pictures… There are two things I look forward to every year: Our annual vacation overseas, and the Natural hair show in Atlanta. (There was a time I looked forward to three things every year, but now that my uterus is no longer serving as a baby vending machine, I […]

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From the Mouth of Marshall: A Few Ramblings on Marriage, Money and Malaka

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A few people called me “mad” for having a problem taking money from my husband, and I understand way. But even more interestingly, one commenter said that he and his wife have a similar dynamic in their home, and that he wondered what my husband’s perspective might be on the matter. After all, even when […]

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I Have Trouble Taking Money From My Husband

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My husband is a wonderful man and an excellent spouse. I’ve extolled his virtues on M.O.M. on so many occasions that I’ve had to stop for fear of being accused of idol worship or braggadocio. After all, with 50-60% of all Christian marriages ending in divorce, wouldn’t it appear conceited for me to talk about […]

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Your Woman Desperately Wants to Make You a Sandwich

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At some point in her relationship, every woman will face a critical decision. Some of us have been presented with this test and failed abysmally. Others can’t imagine the torture that this trial will bring. In many cases, it will set or change the tone of your relationship. “Hey baby…can you get me a sandwich?” […]

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Discovering the Lost Art of Begging

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For years, whenever my husband and our family went on a trip, I sat obediently in the passenger’s seat and did my best to keep him company by chattering on about this and that or whatever came to mind. His brow was always in a perpetual furrow as he took the wheel, and I assumed […]

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Spark Park Deux!

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A rush of wind and leaves followed the women into the backdoor. Emily solemnly laid her bible on the coffee table and rested her head in the palm of her hand. Samantha rubbed her shoulders and cooed soothingly at her. Abiola looked around for something to do. As absurd as the whole affair was, she […]

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A Jesus-y Post About Sex n' Marriage

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*Warning! This blog post is all Christian-y and stuff* I had a discussion with a friend of mine who is getting her degree in divinity somewhere up North. During the course of that brief discussion, there were a number of profound conclusions we came to (or at least that were profound to the two of […]

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Why I Always Have, and Always Will, ‘Eat Mor Chikin’

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“Dude. Chick Fil-a. What do you think?” “Awww, man! You were the first person I thought of when this whole thing went down. I know how you like to get down on some Chick Fil-a!” “Dude; you know it! I’m down for Chick Fil-a 24/7/365 and 366 on a leap year!” “It’s all bull sh*t. […]

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Spectating an (Unnecessary) Eventual Divorce on Facebook

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Ever since I tried to broker a peace accord between two married friends of mine a few years ago, I have vowed to do one thing: To never get personally involved in anyone’s marriage ever again, even when solicited or invited. NEVER. I however never said that I would never indulge in public commentary – […]

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Taking Cues from Couple Watching

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All I wanted to do was fart; but I couldn’t. We were in sophisticated company and it wouldn’t do to let one rip out there on the elevated terrace of JCT Kitchen in the heart of Midtown. The Garners had invited us out for a birthday celebration, and it was the first big social gathering […]

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Sexy Chocolate!

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I lost 8 lbs about two months ago. I was elated. I celebrated that feat with a bar of Green & Blacks Almond chocolate. The celebration continued for 8 weeks, one week for every pound lost. I am now 3 lbs heavier than I was before I lost the weight. That’s a net of I-don’t-really-give-a-crap-because-at-least-I-gained-the-weight-eating-something-I-love […]

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Does Porn Have a Place in Marriage?

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A reader sent me an email this week, asking me about my views on pornography as it relates to relationships that have potential to end in marriage. “I know that you are not a counselor or any such thing. I am just asking in case you may have some insight into issues of this nature,” […]

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Marriage Is Not For Wimps, Punks or Weaklings

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I swear, you meet the strangest people at Wal-Mart In the book Is Marriage for White People?: How the African American Marriage Decline Affects Everyone, Ralph Richard Banks explores the causes and effects of the decline of marriage within the African American community, particularly among Black women. The reasons for this decline are not foreign […]

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