Every so often I turn on Black radio to find out what’s going on in The Community. We’ve had the same set of issues for the last 40+ years (poverty, relationships, bad weaves,etc), so I’m generally able to pick up where I left off without missing a beat. However, regardless of the amount of time […]
I love my husband and I love being married, but if anything should happen to or between my husband and I (Heaven forbid), I would never remarry. It would just be too hard. The difficulty would not lie in reconnecting emotionally with someone – the difficulty would lie in relearning all the quirks of another […]
Have you ever been in the middle of doing something strange, bizarre and flat out WRONG with your spouse and paused to ask yourself “Is another couple somewhere in the world doing this exact same thing??” You have? Me too! Remember when you were standing at the altar, and the pastor sold you both on […]
Marshall and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary this weekend, and it was honestly the best anniversary we’ve had – ever. After I cleaned out the shoe store in my closet, it was abruptly time to head to a marriage conference that was coincidentally happening the same weekend as our anniversary. I had been working […]
Yesterday Marshall and I celebrated our 6th wedding anniversary. I spent the first half of the weekend clearing out old shoes that have accumulated in my closet over the course of 10+ years. Each one had its own memory. Some people collect stamps – I collect shoes. Caroline had come over to watch the children […]
You may have heard that there’s going to be a wedding this Friday over in England, but in case you’ve had your head buried beneath a rock for the last 8 months or so, Kate Middleton will be wedding Prince William in some obscure abbey in in London in 2 days. Westminster I think it’s […]
Readers, I’ve got something for you all to judge. What’s your take on this? My husband and I are going through a quiet ‘battle’ concerning whether or not I should be allowed to have my own room when we move to South Africa. If we had the space in our current home, I would have […]
To shart: the phenomenon through which when farting, a little bit of dookie ends up in your pants. The more I think about marriage, the more I realize that it’s really one of the hardest things a person could ever do successfully. It’s easy to fail at marriage – I mean, all you have to do […]
I was going to title this “Of Brides and Hoodlums”, but I like the former Ms. Shears far too much to dwell on the hood-rattiness of Cory Garner, whom she married just this weekend. (I KNOW you’re reading this Cory, you lawn jockey.) That, and she planned every detail of an amazing event all by […]
It’s a popular saying: “All men are dogs.” It’s a phrase women use generally to console other women who have been “dogged” by a man, and in doing so, insinuating that men and dogs have equivalent behavior when it comes to the treatment of women. But wouldn’t it be wonderful if men actually did act […]
*This article is not for little kids. All you teenagers I’ve FB friended from church stop reading HERE! I don’t want to be a cynic, I promise you I don’t…but Valentine’s Day SUCKS. I used to be one of those people who would balk at other cynics who decried Valentine’s Day as “just a paper” […]
Don’t dump your boyfriend/husband just yet! Read on: The longer I’m married, the more I realize that I only have limited influence on what my husband says and does. Every talk show host and new age advice guru will tell you that you can’t change a person. And that may be true. Perhaps YOU can’t, […]
I was only supposed to stay one hour – but that was before my first sip. This weekend I was invited to a bridal shower in honor of my ex co-worker’s bride to be. (This would be a good time for me to mention that miracles do indeed happen when it comes to finding a […]
I was at work this weekend when a customer and her daughter approached my counter. Her teenaged daughter was talking to her dad and handed her the phone. “Okay. Okaaay!” she said with some aggravation. “We’ll be done soon. I’m checking out now.” She hung up and apologized. “Sorry about that.” “That’s okay!” I […]
Or for that matter, what makes a wife? The question of what makes a ‘good spouse’ is really one I’d like some input on from you guys. I have spent some time talking to newlywed wives (and not so newlyweds) who appear to be in a state of flux as far as their marriages are […]
One of my absolute favorite couples is Steve and Mia Stewart. She’s a no nonsense HR professional and he’s one of Atlanta’s finest. (For all my international readers who are not familiar with this term, that means he’s a cop – not that I am checking out someone else’s husband!) Mia is a queen bee […]
The phrase “bedroom games” means something different to you at every stage of your marriage and/or relationship with a significant other. When you’re a newlywed, it will most likely be construed as an exciting event, with two lovers getting hot and heavy under the covers. Perhaps one of them may dress up as Pocahontas and […]
I was searching for an audio file for this song, but couldn’t find one. Click ‘play’ and let this tune serve as the backdrop as you read this post…in another browser. [youtube=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kS8eVFq1ZdU] Three weeks ago I lay in bed, staring at the ceiling. My husband prepared to drift off to sleep himself, equally weary from […]
Married people: Don’t you just LOVE it when you and your spouse are just clicking? If you’ve been married a day over 5 years, you know what I’m talking about. Like when you finish each other’s sentences; or set a drink of water on the table knowing that your significant other is going to take […]
Like all multicellular organisms, my house has several parts that keep it running. The hum of the fridge; the glow of our lights; the infernal dripping of a leaky faucet or running toilet all indicate that there is life buzzing inside the modest structure. But if you listen closely in the midnight hour, you will […]
If all marriages started out with an engagement like Big Nan’s, no one would ever get divorced. ‘Big Nan’ is my nickname for one of my oldest and closest friends, Nana Koranteng; because she does everything big: House real big, cars real big, grades real big and now wedding real big. I’ve always known that […]