Mind of Malaka | Page 3 of 118 | Motherhood. Marriage. Madness

The Surprising Ways In Which Helping Others Can Also Help You

Posted on November 21, 2019
by Malaka
with 2 Comments

In 2009 I contracted as a recruiter in a boutique organization that sourced and screened resumes for Ma & Pop shops to Fortune 500 companies. It was a maddening, hectic time fraught with office politics, instability and hostility as a natural byproduct; but more than…

Motherhood

Your MeeMaw Has a Favorite Song. It Might Interest You To Find Out What It Is.

Posted on November 5, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

At 8:15 every morning I take a water aerobics class because Big Girls need fitness too. And because while my breasts are cumbersome, vexing impediments to my speed while on land, they make excellent built-in flotation devices. Buoyant things, those GGs. https://tenor.com/view/safety-tips-safety-demonstration-life-vest-life-jacket-life-jackets-gif-14059253 Live footage of…

Musings

Seven Life Changing Lessons From the Movie ‘Dolemite’

Posted on November 3, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

About a week ago, Netflix suggested a title that had my interest piqued upon visual contact. That title was ‘Dolemite Is My Name’. A little background might be helpful in understanding my excitement. The first time I heard the word Dolemite was in the early…

Marriage

Waiting For Sex After Marriage

Posted on October 21, 2019
by Malaka
with 1 Comment

Twenty-four years ago, a friend of mine gave birth to a beautiful brown baby girl; a brown baby with cheeks not dissimilar in appearance to sweet cinnamon rolls and a pair of eyes that shone like polished pearls. I first met this summer child –…

GH2013

My Sole Regret After Appearing on the KSM Show

Posted on October 15, 2019
by Malaka
with 4 Comments

Kwaku Sintim-Misa (KSM) is an acclaimed actor, comedian and talk show host. Last week he invited me to appear on his long-running TV program, the KSM Show. You’ll be proud to know that I kept my cool and resisted the urge to gush for a…

GH2013

Why It’s Important For Me to Travel To the North Alone, Afraid and Now

Posted on September 29, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

Me: Hey, y’all! I’ll be going to the North this month! I’ll be taking a bus and I… Person A: Wouldn’t you rather fly there instead? Me: Of course I would. Person: A.1: So you are going alone? Aren’t you afraid? Me: Well…Of course I…

Marriage

Should You Have Sex When You Are Fasting?

Posted on September 19, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

“Should I have sex with my husband when I’m fasting?” The question was delivered to me earnestly, without forewarning or a natural segue. At a recent book reading, I mentioned to the room that my husband is a pastor (which is passive and has different…

GH2013

Sure, Return. But 2019 Really Ought Be the Year Of Reconciliation

Posted on September 17, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

I don’t think this year of return thing is good at all. It seems like more focus is being put on the Ghanaians come from abroad, and we who are here are being left out. Like that guy – the (Steve) Harvey guy came here and went to the dungeons and was so upset. Me, I can tell you I’ve been to Cape Coast (Castle), Elmina…when I enter those dungeons I don’t feel anything.

The South African Series

Black Is Beautiful, But THIS Black Terrifies Me

Posted on August 1, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

Remember I told you all a few months ago that months ago that the family was moving into a century-old Dutch style home? And how excited I was because I know that the original builders never could’ve imagined in 100 years that my big, Black…

Musings

‘Niggerati Manor’ Is The Period Drama We’re All Ready For

Posted on July 31, 2019
by Malaka
with 0 Comments

Niggerati: A blending of the words ‘nigger’ and ‘literati’, coined by unrivaled African American novelist, anthropologist and filmmaker, Zora Neale Hurston. Last week I received an email inviting me to participate in a literary initiative targeting young readers on the African continent. The person who…

Latest Products