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Can You Trust Your Friends to Give an Unbiased Opinion?

Posted on February 22, 2019
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Event: I goofedTime: Feb 22, 09:30 Who is the first group of people you’re advised to approach whenever you have a new idea/product/thing that you want to share with the world? Come and get your cookie if your answer is “friends and family”. For us…

Marriage

Are You Going to Marry The Man of Your Nightmares?

Posted on February 11, 2019
by Malaka
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I started visiting a new church in the city we’ve moved to. It’s as different from Shack Church (our previous house of worship) as peanut butter is from humus. Both creamy, both legumes… and those are where the similarities end. They both have their merits,…

Madness

The Secret Life of Flies

Posted on February 7, 2019
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I killed a fly this morning. I don’t know about you, but there’s something refreshing about confessing one’s insecticidal tendencies. I feel cleansed. So yeah, I killed him. (FYI: All insects are male.) Big ol’, blue bottle, buzzin’ bugger. He was sitting on my windowsill…

Musings

A Theory On Why Black Men Suppress the Urge To Support Terry Crews

Posted on January 28, 2019
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I mean, it's a valid question... In October of 2017 and in the wake of allegations of sexual misconduct by Harvey Weinstein, Terry Crews came forward with a personal story of abuse that he’d suffered. Before I read the details, my presumption was that his…

Musings

Remembering A Friend For Whom The Rainbow Was Enuf

Posted on January 22, 2019
by Malaka
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TW: This post discusses themes surrounding mental health issues, suicide and coping strategies to address each. If you or someone you love has considered therapy, there are numerous resources such as the American Psychiatric Association, Betterhelp.com or the AACC available to assist you. A part…

Madness

Dreadlocking in South Africa is the Ultimate 419/Sakawa/MLM Scam

Posted on November 19, 2018
by Malaka
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The South African hair care market was valued at $ 451.8 million in 2017 and is projected to reach $490.4 million by 2023. (Source: Industry Reports) Black hair is versatile, and allows those of us with curlier locks a dynamic range in styling options: cornrows,…

Musings

The House That Sexism Built

Posted on November 13, 2018
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One of the many pleasures of living on the Garden Route is access to miles and miles of gorgeous, pristine coastline. The beauty of the Eden District cannot be adequately described with words. It is exquisite, yet does not come without its flaws. As anyone…

Motherhood

Conversations With My Daughter: Accepting Our Uncomfortable Reality

Posted on November 5, 2018
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When I was at Hampton University doing my undergrad, I had classes with a student named Jemilla, an entity so powerful that at 18 she could only be described as more woman than girl. In the entirety of my (by then) very short life, I…

Motherhood

How We Condition Our Boys To See Themselves as Domestically Incompetent

Posted on October 22, 2018
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“This video makes me feel lazy and messy and dumb.” Eh? Who is making my baby – only male offspring to jettison himself from my womb – feel ‘dumb’? As I whip around, I am confronted with the knot of muscles and knitted brows that…

Musings

Ancestral Fried Chicken

Posted on October 15, 2018
by Malaka
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Upon entering the APEX Museum in Atlanta, GA, visitors are exhorted to remember that African/Black American history does not begin with slavery or colonization: these were interruptions to our history. That particular notion should be intuitive enough that it ought not require a reminder or…

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